Things I Wish I Knew-004- Military Version- Moving
Hi guys and gals.. welcome to Things I Wish I Knew, Military Version… specifically moving.
Have you ever been so stressed out the impending military move, and upheaval of the life as you know it? Well… Here are few things I wish I had known about before my first military relocation with my husband.
- IT will TEST YOU, over and over and over
- Your belongings will arrive later than you are promised
- Employment might be a struggle for you, hang tough
Here’s how I would recommend handling these challenges… the uncensored, non stepford wives, staying true to yourself way… or at least how I’m handling it.
- Force communication, over communicate every day, every hour, every second of how you are doing. Ask for what you need emotional, physically, and honestly to your partner who is in the military. The honesty you share with them will give them opportunities to show up and be vulnerable as well. It’s not just hard on you, it’s hard on your partner because they are working with a new group of people. Trying to pretend like they have everything handled.. when actually they are pretty scared themselves. So far, I can’t think of anything that has tested our relationship more than a military move.
- Be prepared to rent furniture, renting furniture will make it feel more like home… QUICKER, and the quicker you can adjust the quicker you will feel safe and more open to exploring your new location. We didn’t rent furniture or about 50 days out of the 77 days it took to get belongings… and that was a hard lesson learned. Saving the money wasn’t worth the level of uncomfortable we were for 50 days.
- Start looking at your options for employment for where you are moving, before you move. This way it won’t be a surprise when it takes a little longer than you anticipated if you are moving somewhere rural, or overseas. Start amping up your personal skills that are marketable and can be sold. I saved enough money before we moved to get my Yoga certification, so I now have my own yoga classes that I teach. I also started this podcast, and an accountability group to keep me focused on it.