Things I Wish I Knew-005 Love- Healthy Relationships
Hi Everybody, welcome back to Things I Wish I Knew.. in this episode we will be talking at a very high level about what a healthy relationship is.
There is a TON of information all over the web about what is NOT a healthy relationship, but not a lot about what is actually a healthy relationship. This was a request from a listener, and this is not just focused on what makes up a healthy romantic relationship.. it’s the whole shebang.. RELATIONSHIPS in general with other human beings that are healthy have a few qualities that are pretty obvious and consistent.
- You are growing.
- You are yourself.
- You feel safe.
- YOU ARE HAPPY!
It’s really pretty simple, we just try to make it more complicated to make square pegs fit into round holes. If you are happy, IMO you are growing as a person. Whether it be getting to know yourself better in this relationship, getting to know the person you are interacting with or professionally.. learning and living new experiences is a good thing.
If you are yourself, you aren’t embarrassed to be yourself around these people or person and this ties into you feeling safe.. Feeling safe can go pretty deep, and can kinda be the main common denominator in the 3 qualities above. If you are happy, you aren’t scared to be yourself, if you are growing you are encouraged to take risks… which is a direct reflection of feeling safe and supported, and if you environmentally feel safe… you don’t have any doubt about your relationship’s loyalty or honesty. Therefore, you are able to be your TRUE BLUE, HONEST SELF.
YOU ARE HAPPY! You may have down days, but you aren’t consistently unhappy with your relationships. When I’m happy I smile and laugh, and have energy. Now I know this isn’t everyone’s true test of happiness, but it’s the high level version of Happy Stacey. I know some people who are happier than a shopaholic at a Sample sale and will have the smirk of grumpy cat. This rings back to being true to yourself, know when to check in with yourself and see if you are ACTING happy.
These qualities are typically just ignored when we want to hold onto am unhealthy relationship. Most people, even myself have been in a situation where they try to look away from the bad, and weigh on the scales of our own personal justice system as to whether it is toxic/unhealthy.
IN CONCLUSION, deep down you know if the relationships you surround yourself in are healthy. You just have to have the courage to be honest with yourself about them .
Please let me know if you would like to go a little bit deeper with this topic, as I could go on about what I think a healthy relationship is.. but I would love to hear your thoughts as well.
Thanks again for listening to Things I Wish I Knew. Now go make some healthy relationship choices.